ABBA BOGIN
Tel: 212-663-4198
Dear Greg:
Your letters arrived yesterday afternoon. As I have consistently told you. I will respond to mail from you, and I am pleased to do so at this time.
I will try to address myself to each point you make, and I hope my answers to your questions, my efforts, etc. will h elp you in whatever way I am able to help. “He did do nothing but create more problems for me with his lies”
I would hope for all of us that peace is not only confined
to Christmas season, but may remain for the rest of the year as well. I appreciate your efforts at good will to
both your children and to us, and I hope we can continue to maintain this state
of affairs. “But after 25 years nothing has changed and
Tomoko ran off, changed her name and has never contacted me, their Grand Mother
or other relatives. For me it is just all lies and this proves it.”
In that spirit, and before I get to any other matters, let
me tell you that I hope you and your new family had a very good Christmas, and
that we wish you nothing but the best for the New Year. I will also add that since your letter and
pictures to the children are open and we see the picture of your new daughter,
we both think she is absolutely beautiful, and we can only hope that she will
bring you much pleasure and pride for the rest of y our life. “Yes my
new daughters are doing great and I am very proud of them.”
As you know, I shall send your letter and the enclosed pictures to Akiko and Takuya, as you wish me to do. “Why cannot I send them I am their Father, this I cannot understand how he could be so arrogant.” I hope they will be pleased to receive them. I also hope they will want to write back to you. “They never did so I guess their Mother, Tomoko Sakata Robert, did not let them see the pictures.”
And I can only imagine and hope that they will do so. Even though they are growing up, remember
that they are still kis and they need prodding to
write letters. Also, they need good and
positive letters from you. “Who is this guy that he thinks he knows it
all, what gives him any right to interfere in my families business? I do not
understand how arrogant this man is”
My profound regrets to you about your father’s illness! I hope
they will respond to it they way both you and I would like to see them respond. “To
read this after all these years is really sad because they have never responded
or respected my family. They do not have
to like my family but they should respect it. This is their Mother’s doing and why for me
she is an unfit Mother, person and wife.”
I cannot know what their reaction will be. Like you, I never got to know either of my
Grandfathers, and I wish I had. I
appreciate your feelings, and again. I
can only say that I am sorry you are having to live
through your father’s serious illness alone.
“I think Abba hit it right on with
this statement but for me he is so far off with his other ideas which are so
distorted.” “My children have never had
contact with my family or me since the divorce.”
You talk about my personal feelings concerning the relationship between you and your children, and I must tell you that you misunderstand my personal feelings. Somehow you think that I would like to see no relationship, or a very poor relationship between all of you; if that is what you think you could not be more wrong. I have told you before, and I repeat it again: I wish you could have the best relationship possible. Where we disagree with each other is how that might be accomplished.
“Well, for one think
Abba and his wife help Tomoko take my children out of state, gave them money,
and set them up in an apartment in Sunderland, Mass. Which for me was all lies
because they kept telling me they did not know where she was.” “Such lies all
lies.”
I wish you to have the best relationship possible. Where we disagree
with each other is how that might be accomplished. I told you, in the last paragraph, what my
personal feelings ar, concerning your father’s
illness, and maybe, some day, you will start to understand that my personal
feelings to you are only that you find your happiness in whatever you would
like to do and be, “but he doesn’t want
to admit that my personal happiness has to do with bringing up my kids this
doesn’t seem to be important to this ABBA.
That you and your loved ones remain healthy and happy, and
that you prosper in very way you would care to.
If you were totally happy with your life, you know that you would not be
so angry and upset with me, and with others who you feel are making problems
for you. “Now he is making accuses for his behavior and telling me I do not have
a right to be angry at someone who takes my children out of States and lies to
me about it like he did nothing wrong but is only working for my good.” “And we wonder why we have wars.”
I have also said that I think the best way to “heal the
wounds”, and expression I used before, and which you now quote back to me, is
to do is gently, slowly, and with love, instead of anger. “Well,
it is easy to say when one has the upper hand and is lying, stealing and making
up things about me to make me look bad.
When you have several people doing this without my knowledge it is very
difficult to defend myself, This was the Stutzman’s
Family from Long Island (They use to live in Port Washington, NY, Stutzman’s Funeral Home, 2000 Hillside Ave, New Hyde Park,
phone 516-352-2424, (please do not do business with these people) and the Bogin’s who set this all up with Tomoko’s lies. When she met a man on one of her music jobs
she liked.. But
you see this kind of deception was not a part of my being? I did not understand
what was going on and she even asked me if she could go out with a man when we
were in
Greg, a long time has gone by, with some very unpleasant
things. “How can one say about unpleasant
things, who started it? They never think of that! Who
caused all these problems, Tomoko’s lies and deceptions and greed for money. You are more
unpleasant and awful and hateful then anyone I have ever known and it is not in
your sweet talk but in your behavior that is important. You can never accept your behavior which is
wrong.”
I do not even want to get into the question of whose at
fault, “of course not because you are wrong and always have been wrong and
Tomoko and your wife, your third wife I might ad, Masako and the Stutzmans you are completely wrong for I have not seen my
children in 25 years or more. Of course you will blame me and not yourself and
your wife and Tomoko.”
No matter now. I have
faith that it is possible for you and your kids to establish a good and decent
relationship, one where care, respect and love may grow and flourish. You are the adult, they are the kids. “Really are you my Father ABBA, I think I am
more of a man than you could ever be in a lot of ways. Although you may have a
lot of good qualities I think in this situation you are way out of line and
this is criminal
behavior for me along with Tomoko and Masako I might ad.”
In the long run, it is strictly between them and you. Neither Masako nor I, nor for that matter,
Tomoko, can really get in your way, if you (both kids and father) can relate to
each other in a way that the love and respect really starts to flourish. “Wow,
what a statement, I am wondering if Tomoko moves 350 miles from New York City
and I do not have visitation rights because I believe my kids belong in New
York, which you ABBA drove them up there, man you will make any kind of
statement to make you look good when you just are interfering with my family
and children. It is a wonder how people
like yourself can live in such delusion of self
interest and pride. You are a sick man
pretending to be normal.”
I don’t think you can demand someone to respect you. “Well Abba I will never forget the day when
you were at my concert and trying to promote your group to the Long Island Arts
Council at my Creative Music Productions Inc. Concert. It shows you are a man with no morals and respect
for others and you are so proud of Masako, well I will never forget the notes
she missed in the Mozart, what a joke you all are for me. I do not respect you or your wife at
all. For you have not shown me any
respect to my musical group or my children. Yes you may have many good
qualities but honor and respect are not one of them. I am a creative artist not a stupid
performing artist like you are and all your stupid friends. For please show me anyone of them that can do
what I do. They cannot!”
I mentioned above,
put in whatever kind words I can for you.
I admit that I do not have the opportunity to do it very often where it
might do any good. Simply
and plainly because we are really not in the same end of the business. “He
could never admit I am a great musician, composer, and performer in both jazz
and classical music so what can I say.
Readers please view my
website for your opinion. http://greghenrywaters.com
This is long enough letter! Again, I tell you that both
Masako and I would hope you have only good things in this New Year. Let’s try to retain the peace, heal the
wounds, and any and all other ways of saying what you have said in your letter.
“When a parent doesn’t
know where his children are how can the wounds heal,
they cannot be healed the pain is always there.
This is why this is my holocaust and losing children is a deep pain no
one should have to live with, but I do see many parents with this problem and I
know I am not alone with this.”
“He just makes excuses
for his lies and hiding my children from me, for if I cannot find them I cannot
go to court to get visitation rights.”
You ask me to try to help you. And I tell you I will, if I possibly can. Now give me a chance to at least try. Fair enough?
Abba
Well, I have not seen
my children in 25 years or more. Did
Abba really try to help me? I hardly
think so he just allowed a out of control woman run
off with my children.
